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On motherhood and...Holidays


Last week C had a week-long job scheduled out in Germany, and we decided that the nicest way of managing his potential time away from home was for me and M to go along with him. We’d hang loose in the daytime, just as we do normally, and then we could fill our evenings with Weissbier and sauerkraut and Craig wouldn’t have to go ages without seeing his beloved firstborn. This seemed a sound plan when it was made a couple of months ago – a 15-week old sounded practically grown up to us at that point. But man did it roll round quickly. And so it was that I found myself at 4am last Saturday deliberately waking Maggie up in order to get her into the car to Heathrow (much to her chagrin, since she was just getting used to being told to put a sock in it at 4am). Here is what the ensuing week taught me:
1. Babies need hold luggage
C booked carry-on only for the bambino, reasoning that her clothes are very tiny and there would be a washing machine there anyway. Clothes ain’t the half of it — babies travel very heavy, especially if (like me) you are convinced that one particular toy might have a talismanic effect on them vis a vis sleeping on planes, but you don’t know which toy it might be, so you pack seven. Those mofos need hold space, possibly more than you do.
2. Business means business
We had avios to use, so I travelled in business with M while C was down the back. On the way out this was no biggie, as business class is pretty empty on a Saturday morning. However, it turns out that business class passengers (understandably) feel their extra money has been spent not only on accessing free peanuts and real cutlery, but also on guaranteeing a baby-free ride. I’ve never seen such unfriendly faces as when we boarded the 8pm flight back from Hanover on Friday night – faces which only melted into smiling and cooing when M had earned her stripes by staying silent until we landed. I also felt quite judged by the assembled company in the business lounge when I availed myself of two giant vodka tonics before departure. But that is literally all that is in offer in Hanover lounge beyond biscuits and a big jar of frankfurters, so it was a no-brainer.
3. Sunshine is not always good news
I wasn’t expecting Lower Saxony in spring to be 26 degrees, or for it to be full of people swimming in lakes and generally larking about like it was August on the Riviera. I love sunshine, but babies do not. I therefore spent days perfecting the ‘walk round the lake at the right time of day with the sun in front of you so you get a face tan but M is protected’ routine, which worked well. That was until I read an Australian baby web site which told me not to use a muslin as a sunshade for fear of roasting the baby, and then I had to flee to the air bnb and perfect the ‘napping in the daytime in the same bed without getting sweaty’ routine instead.
4. Swimming pools rock
There is a water complex in Hildesheim called ‘Wasserparadies’, and it couldn’t be more aptly named. M has been attending ‘water safety’ lessons in Brighton (not called swimming, as it is more the art of not panicking at this stage) and so I though we would spend a warm and muggy morning in the pool. The whole thing is about the size of my home town, with enough changing rooms for an army, and it was deserted. We floated on the lazy river, played in the baby pool, and practised splashing and kicking to our little hearts’ content. Everyone we met there smiled at us and helped us out even though my GCSE German has vanished, and I left absolutely loving life. M left sleeping, which is just as good.
5. Going on holiday with a baby is weird
I don’t mean travelling with a baby per se, but having a baby as your only company. We spent a whole week in Hildesheim and C had to work every day, including the weekend, so we had a lot of time together in what is not a particularly big or exciting town. It was brilliant and boring in equal measure — I have learned how to make bath time last an hour, how to transform a trip to H&M for baby pyjamas into a serious whole-afternoon mission, and that Netto is the worst supermarket for prams in Europe (probably the world). I have also learned never to take a baby into a cathedral if someone is about to take to the organ. If that isn’t a valuable life lesson, I don’t know what is. Also, babies love a glockenspiel, and Germans don’t seem as interested in baby cooing as their neighbours to the south. German friends may correct me, but it seems to me that in general Spanish and Greek people greet babies as if they all might be the messiah, whereas Saxony folk glance at you and nod before returning to their coffee and cake / giant beer and fags. It’s strangely reassuring to be so roundly ignored — in fact it felt just like home. Thanks for having us, Hildesheim.

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